Do you crave deep connections but also struggle with them?

Maybe you find yourself in relationships where you feel unseen, unimportant, or like you have to work hard to be loved. Or maybe you push people away when they get too close, fearing rejection, and end things before it can happen.

These struggles often stem from early attachment wounds—deep-rooted patterns from childhood that shape how we relate to others.

The good news? This is very treatable, and healing is possible.

Our first relationships—usually with parents or caregivers—lay the foundation for how we experience love, safety, and connection. If you grew up with inconsistent, distant, or critical caregivers, you may have learned that love is unpredictable or that you need to earn affection/ behave in a certain way to receive it.

To be clear, this isn't about having 'bad' parents. Most parents do their very best. Sometimes, especially for highly sensitive people, their best isn't quite enough and we can be left with deficits in our development relating to healthy, secure attachments.

As an adult, this can show up as:

You can start by:

💡Noticing the patterns in your relationships—do you chase love, withdraw from intimacy, or feel like you’re “too much” or “not enough”? Are you able to ask for what you need?

💡Paying attention to your core beliefs—attachment wounds often show up as core beliefs around not being good enough, not being loveable, or not being worthy. What messages do you notice you tell yourself over and over?

💡Learning new relationship skills. Setting boundaries, communicating your needs, and allowing yourself to receive love can feel uncomfortable at first—but they are key to breaking old patterns.

💡Seeking support. Healing attachment wounds takes time, but you don’t have to do it alone. Therapy provides a safe space to explore your past, rewrite your relationship patterns, and build self-worth. I especially love EMDR as a therapy approach for attachment trauma.